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I have a female friend I've known for more than two years. I'm pretty sure that she's the one for me, but she's already in a serious relationship. Is it worth potentially breaking up our friendship by moving in on her? If so, what's the best way to do it?

Mark

Well Mark, here's the deal.  We are all connected in this universe, and there is a natural rythym to life, to love, to being happy.  If she's happy with the man she's with, you are doing her a great disservice by bringing it up and potentially destroying what I imagine is a great deal of trust and mutual admiration.  That bell is not easily unrung.  It doesnt solve your problem (being in love and not being able to say it and experience it) if in solving yours you create one for someone else.  So make sure aren't infringing on what she considers to be the love of HER life, then follow your heart.  Remember you have your whole life to fall in love, and a 2 year friendship might actually need more time to grow into what you want.  Think about it, and Good Luck!

Cheers
Luckman

You have enough friends without her.

That said, your chances are low. 1) She loves her boyfriend. He's probably smarter, richer and better looking than you. 2) You're on the friend ladder.  Screw with the ladder and you could find youself watching Monday night football alone.

Remember, most couples do not end up married. Chances are he'll screw up, or he'll get sick of her. Remember this mantra: "Show me a hot girl, I'll show you a guy who tires of her".

The best thing for you to do at this point is to "get in line" -- anything else and you'll hurt your chances. Once they're done, you can be her rebound guy if you want.  Remember, time is the ultimate test.  If you and her are meant to be with each other - mother time will take care of the rest.

Jack

Mark all i can say is tell her, I just met the man of my dreams. And i was getting married in a month to my BF that i have been with for 7 yrs and i called it off,  so u never know love is crazy!

 

best of luck hun

Crystal