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With all due respect to your present reviewer's perspective I am very happy if not ecstatic with my experience with e-harmony.  One does tend to get what one pay's for doesn't one?  He describes the process very accurately and to be truthful I have been frustrated at times with some of the issues he has mentioned. 

HOWEVER :-) ALL IN ALL e-harmony is awesome and does nothing less than what they advertise.  Could the process be improved?  SURE  But this is an expample of an enterprise doing their job with a satisfaction rating from this user of FOUR STARS out of FIVE

Respectfully,

Ron

A friend warned me about eHarmony and I paid no mind. She said that towards the end of her membership period they hit her with several matches. None of them responded to her. This happened two different months. (She is very attractive.) I laughed it off. Then towards the end of my three month membership, the very same thing happned to me. It really appeared to be a sucker slap to get you to extend your membership.

Bob

It appears to me that the person who did your review of eharmony is single not looking to get married. And I could be wrong, but I guess that this person was also never married. I was married for 25 years and I find eharmony refreshing. It's wonderful. For me I'm not looking to date a bunch of women. I want a wife. So if you are looking for a date don't go there. If you are looking for a wife it's the perfect site.

Sincerly,

Dale

In addition to the reviewer's comments, one of my criticisms is the age thing. I'm 49 and they "suggest" matches between the ages of 35 and 69. Sorry, but a tad old for my tastes. But when I tried to change the age parameter I was "told" I couldn't make it younger, only older. And if George Burns wasn't dead that'd be swell. And, yes, predictable.

I do believe that every one of my matches, in the "things you're most thankful for" category included 'my children, my children's health, my family' ad nauseum. And while an admirable trait, I'm single, female, and childless by choice. My hopes were that all "their" children were either living with their mothers, or old enough to be out of the house. And in the case of the older matches, that should include GRAND children.

bmack

Call me shallow (just like my date last night, but that is another story) - but chemistry is too important for me - so I'll pass on eHarmony.  I don't want to waste my time exchanging emails with women I would never introduce to "big Jack".  The fact you don't get to see their picture until you exchange emails, is like taking a very cold shower - not interested.

Jack

Always a good thing to hear another perspective, Ron.  So did you find the right one for you, or are you still looking?  Care to share some of your match experiences with us?

Cheers
Luckman

TV advertising drew me to eHarmony.  I am female, fiftyish, and very outgoing and attractive.  Before I actually joined I received emails indicating that there were several matches out there for me.  Once I paid my money, those matches disappeared.  I now find out that I cannot get a refund (seven days have passed), no further matches are forthcoming but I am being asked to extend my membership beyond the  three month period for which I have paid.

Needless to say, I am not a happy camper. On the positive side they promise results, on the negative my lack of control over the process.  At this point, it seems like a scam to me.

Barbara

(1)  People must understand that no matching service can guarantee you happiness or a spouse. They can only act as a mediator.

(2)  I have received close to 40 matches thus far and I've only been online for about 3 weeks. The "trick" is to tell the truth on your personality profile. If you are truthful you will get appropriate matches. Lie and you get what you deserve---jerks.

(3)  People complain about the cost of eHarmony. I am happy for the high fee because it helps cut back on the "riff raff".  I am impressed with the high quality of educated men that I am sorting through weekly!

When someone complains about the cost, I know right away that they aren't serious. If they were, they would be more concerned about being patient as they await the right one.

Yeah, well maybe you should look over your
list a bit better because mine has the same
amount of matches and heres probable
PROOF eHarmony is a scam....

Alright....
Here's my list of closed matches eHarmony
found for me but I found to be incompatible
with me after being a member for not more
than 2 weeks. Aside from the fact that they
say their long personality profile test is based
on what was it "300 reasons", notice that I
have closed 34 of them (with only 2 remaining):

Ok first, notice the odd "a" name endings
after being sorted. Also note only one of
them has the same name:

DANA - cameron park, California
Andrea - Carmichael, California
Erika - Cazadero, California
Tricia  - Soon to be Fresno, California
Lura - ocean park, Washington
Melissa - Peoria, Arizona
Melissa - St Louis Park, Minnesota
Tonia - Minneapolis, Minnesota
Jessica - Stacy, Minnesota
Amanda - Spring Lake Park
Theresa - Onalaska, Wisconsin
Earlita - Tampa, Florida
Patricia - Jupiter, Florida
Tina - Mississauga, Ontario, Canada  
Vanessa - Vancouver, BC, Canada     

More, again notice the odd name similarities here:

Aimee - Atlanta, Georgia
Shannonlee - St.Paul, Minnesota
Julie - minneapolis, Minnesota
Julianne - green bay, Wisconsin
Marianne - Pompton Lakes, New Jersey
Jeannine - Canton, Georgia 
Jean - Inver Grove Heights, Minnesota

The rest, notice how arbitrary, meaning none
have the same name (as well as entire list
with the exception of one name):

Janice - San Francisco, California
Erin - Benicia, California
Cyndy - portland , Oregon
Jennifer - Casper, Wyoming
Thuy - Austin, Texas
Shalann - North Little Rock , Arkansas
Kim - Atlanta, Georgia
Tiffany - moline, Illinois
Esther - Melbourne, Florida
Elizabeth - New York, New York
trish - atlantic city, New Jersey
beth - concord, New Hampshire

So, scam.... or no scam? That is the question.
I'll tell you what i think, i think there are way
too many similarities. Any good programmer
who knows good coding could dupe up lists
like this for people. Thats just my opinion. ~JP,
Minnesota, USA

 

 

I am quitting e-harmony.

I am VERY disappointed with your system. I have sent many letters with excellent suggestions on how you could improve the matching success of your computer program. I've been patient. But after 2 years of waiting, I am at the end of my rope. Nearly 75 percent of the matches sent to me have incomplete "about me" data that never gets filled in. 90 percent of women fail to post a photo. You refuse to require and amend your software to NOT allow posting until the about me data is complete. You will not add a place to close a match if the about me data is incomplete.

I've received nearly 150 matches and have commmunicated in the "open communication" framework with only a few with success. I never got beyond this and actually calling or meeting in person. I not angry about this. What I am angry about is that I am expected to wait for women who refuse to give me more than a morsel of personal "about me" data or whom never post a photo. This system is setting up good people for failure from the begining. Woman don't realize most men automatically close matches that pop up with no photos and most don't realize the importance of finishing the about me questions. IF e-harmony made it prefectly clear the risk of posting an incomplete match profile or without a photo and the high likelyhood that a majority of the matches will close them immediately, then the women might be more agressive in their approach to this process.

I am not satisfied AT ALL.

I agree, I can't tell you how many times I've exchanged e-mails back and forth for several weeks and when I finally get that picture, they look like the evil, fatter twin sister of Rosy O'Donnell..What a disapointment...

Joe..

Ron ,
  
  All I can say to you is that either you are employed at e-Harmoney or you are a stock holder or have some kind of vested interest. e-Harmoney ha sto be the worst and most restrictive of any of the personals I have ever experienced. I would highly recommend against anyone joining the service as it is a watse of time and money.

JP,

 After reading your post I went back to look at the matches that had been sent to me while a member at e-harmoney. You are dead on the money. I received 4 Tina's , 3 Traci's and several others with similar patterns to yours. I think you might be on to something.

  I have subscribed to eHarmony for almost 15 months.  I am extremely unhappy with the results. Out of the 100+ matches, the majority did not respond or closed saying they were not available for various reasons.  I met a total of two men. 

The first was a total mismatch.  The second I did go out with for two months but ended it because of personal issues.  For the $ spent I think I had much more success on Match.com, Yahoo personals, etc.

They advertise all their "marriage successes" and if true, I am happy for those couples.  I am not convinced it works.  I like the other services better because you have more immediate feedback and play a more active role in selection, good or bad, at least you can parti***te.

OrangeCoGirl

Thank you for your feedback.  I was just about ready to join and decieded to see what others, if anyone, was unhappy with eharmony.  Thank you, all, for helping me save the expense.

corky girl